Anonymous said: Was really irritated about some computer issues until I read that anecdote about your coworker. Reading that made me ill but it's easy to forget the magnitude of suffering that some people experience and I'm thankful to have that perspective. For what it's worth, I hope that she's okay (or as close to okay as possible after going through that).
This isn’t necessarily germane to what got us started on the topic, but I found it very interesting and I’ll pass it along:
I once asked her how she processed the conflict back home from her new position in the US. I asked if she saw someone from the ethnic group (hutu) that murdered her family, how she would feel.
"I see them at the bus stop. I give them directions when they ask. I sometimes feel like I don’t want to talk to them because it remind me of my mother. But that doesn’t matter here."
I just thought that was a very powerful commentary on conflict and the nature of diaspora. “That doesn’t matter here.”
8:02 pm • 28 August 2014 • 2 notes
Anonymous said: Another voice on veganism and EDs: veganism dramatically helped my recovery and made the entire process easier to handle (emotionally/mentally). One can be restrictive no matter what their diet comprises of. Be intuitive and recognize current motivations for going vegan. For me, it was entirely ethical, which gave me a lot comfort with introducing foods back into my life. Good luck with recovery! Don't be afraid of making mistakes and embrace your strength.
There you go.
7:55 pm • 28 August 2014 • 1 note
Media Patrick has been consuming:
Lone Wolf & Cub: Omnibus 5 by Koike & Kojima - The second-best of the omnibuses. One clunker chapter doesn’t take away from the others, which are brilliant. With these stories we get a healthy balance of one-offs and ‘grudge mythos.’ Legitimately perfect.
The Fade Out: Issue 1 by Brubaker & Phillips - I really didn’t think I needed any standard Hollywood noir in my life. I was wrong, for at least an issue. We’ll see if it keeps me longer than Fatale did. Starts intentionally trope-heavy but well-written. So, I’m game for now.
POP: Issue 1 by Pires & Copland - I’ve worked with Copland before and love seeing him develop. He’s at his best here. Solid storytelling. That said, I don’t know how much can be done with this script. The tone is very confused for me. Is it dark comedy? Or is it pure commentary? Satire?
Holocaust Rex: At the Cursed Gates of Koch Issue One by Wills & Kidd - My favorite thing to look at this week. Not enough story to feel involved, but fun nonetheless. Would read issue two.
Junqueland, Issue 3 by Fischer - Promising animal porn comic. Will be excited to see it in three issues when he has it down. Right now a good few cum shots but not enough laughs.
Stray Bullets, Issue 6 by Lapham - Best book on the shelves. I don’t like ‘tripping on drugs’ as the reason for anything in a plot because it’s too abstract and becomes something like ‘crazy’ for a motivation. Not relatable and not fun. But the non-payoff payoff at the end of this issue makes everything work. Really great.
Nightland, Issue 1 by McGovern and Leandri - On paper, this book is dead-on-arrival for me. Goofy is one way to put it. But it does a rare thing and makes goofy work. Goofy with gravitas? I will buy issue two.
Dark Engine, Issue 1 by Burton and Bivens - Too much let-me-explain-this-fantasy-world expositional dialog. I’m out.
How Music Works by Byrne - Not done yet. So far, I like when he talks about social science and like it less when he talks about himself.
Working on two Elmore Leonard books. One paper and one audiobook. Enjoying both.
7:53 pm • 28 August 2014 • 6 notes
photo-tropic said: re: eating disorder recovery: I'm about 3 years into recovery from a 7 yr hellish eating disorder. when I first committed to my recovery, I tried vegetarianism/borderline vegan eating and it totally backfired on me/triggered the hell out of my restrictive issues. definitely recommend working through food issues to get to at least a semi normal relationship with food before you try restricting anything in your diet. recovery is hard enough, try not to make it harder on yourself. good luck!
Another voice on the matter.
6:49 pm • 28 August 2014 • 5 notes
Anonymous said: Since you seem decently connected in the world of "swoop metalcore". So my question is what should someone do to break into that world? Is creating a youtube channel and marketing yourself as a brand the way into one of those bands? Willing to sell my soul to play riffs.
I’d call you very dumb, but I actually know of someone who got their drumming gig from that approach.
Looked the part and did whatever the drummer equivalent to ‘shredding’ is on Youtube. Got the gig.
So, I don’t understand anything. This world is a cipher made of dogshit to me. I’m lost and confused. I need a mother.
6:11 pm • 28 August 2014 • 7 notes
Anonymous said: have you ever thought about getting really horny and trying to write a primal album about fucking?
We’re doing this in LI before the show on Sunday.
I asked the band to go heavier than our last couple efforts because the dude I want to do guest vocals isn’t built for softness.
6:09 pm • 28 August 2014 • 3 notes
Anonymous said: if you can't write lyrics in 2 hours you scrap the entire song? that's retarded.
When you’re primary vocalist for Self Defense Family, you can set your own parameters. I’m about feelings, bro.
6:04 pm • 28 August 2014 • 11 notes
fejlfri said: In re. to anons ED question, I went vegan as recovery from a ten year eating disorder. I didn't label it, didn't deny myself of foods I sometimes craved - and in turn it helped curb the binges and resulted with me repairing my relationship with food. Just don't paint Veganism as the be all end all in this situation, because if you slip up with foods it's not the end of the world and you will get better - what is the most important is your recovery right now, not labels.
There you go. Another perspective.
5:57 pm • 28 August 2014 • 3 notes
Anonymous said: Let me express my support for 27 yo dude here. From another 27 yo dude, I feel you. No disrespect to anyone, but someone else's struggle being worse does not make what you go through less painful. -James
I find I benefit from that measuring stick.
When I’ve had a stressful day, I think about my old coworker who watched her mom and brother’s heads pop open from gunshots. She was then laid in a field and had gasoline poured over her and her sister. She lived only because the dudes holding the lighters ran to kill someone else. She trekked through jungle without shoes for two days before running into other displaced people traveling to a refugee camp. THEN she was witness to one of the bigger refugee camp massacres. Maybe Gatumba, I don’t remember.
She just wanted to sleep and eat. She was excited to get fat.
For sure, thinking critically, my coworker’s bad day doesn’t make mine any less annoying. But I think about her and it chills me out sometimes. Of course, that’s only when I’m being objective enough to think about anything other than my problems. When I’m in the shit, I can get as hyperfocused on individual hassles as anyone else.
5:56 pm • 28 August 2014 • 4 notes
Anonymous said: To the guy battling Peyronie's disease (among the others), I've been dealing with it for about 6 months but did nothing up until recently. I've been taking 400 mg of vitamin e twice a day for about a month now, and have been doing my best to avoid getting an erection, or putting unnecessary pressure on that part of the penis. The curvature is lessening and seems like it should be gone in about a month. This was the most affective way I found to deal with this without surgery. Hope that helps.
I learn new things every day of my life on this Earth.
5:38 pm • 28 August 2014 • 11 notes